balancing the feminine and masculine within
Spirit are bringing an interesting topic up for reflection today - within ourselves and within our long term relationships.
We are being called to look at our feminine and masculine energy within right now. A lot of us are getting too far into one side of our feminine or masculine energy, and it’s time to check in on how our balance is looking.
Feminine energy is referring to our softer side. Think about your nurturing, slower, emotional, mothering side. How are you allowing this side to be known and shown within your world? Are you allowing this side to take over too much or has it been sitting dormant for too long now? It’s time to self assess.
Your Masculine energy is your busy, strong, hustling, controlling energy. How are you utilising this energy? Are you spending more time in your masculine and not allowing your feminine energy to breathe?
I want you to check in with how you are balancing these two sides of your being. I also want you to check in and see how this side is showing up in your relationships. This year, our relationships are being tested big time. We are being asked to reflect on whether our long-term relationships are really for us. Are you feeling fulfilled? Is your partner giving you what you need to thrive and reach your full potential? Has there been some drifting within your relationship because one of you wants to grow, and the other doesn’t?
There needs to be some shifts in your relationships for them to go the distance - if that’s what you want. So, in terms of the masculine and feminine balance within your relationships… who is predominantly in their masculine energy and who is predominantly in their feminine energy? Be mindful that this is not about gender. If you are reflecting on your relationships and you feel like you are strongly in your masculine energy and this needs to come back to a healthy balance…have a conversation with your partner. Ask them to support you in taking some of those masculine tasks off your hands, so you can lean more into your feminine energy.
How do I know if I’m in my masculine energy?
- you’re in charge of all the money, paying of bills, holding a strong focus on working & financials.
- you’re doing most of the jobs to keep the household in order (ie. putting the bins out, deciding/cooking all the meals etc.)
- you’re making all the decisions and doing all the planning about where you go and what you do within the relationship.
- you’re controlling all the discussions and driving all the conversations within the relationship.
- hiding, suppressing or neglecting emotions.
How do I know if I’m in my feminine energy?
- you’re happy to go along with whatever the masculine decision is most of the time.
- you’re happy for the masculine partner to be in control of the financials and paying all the bills.
- you’re submissive or passive within the discussions and conversations about the relationship or household.
- you like being ‘looked after’ and don’t feel the need to take control of the household jobs or planning (ie. washing, cooking, cleaning).
- you’re enjoying the slower more restful days.
- freely sharing and feeling emotions deeply.
Communication is going to be the key in balancing the masculine and feminine energy within your relationships. Conscious action and awareness is going to be the key in balancing the masculine and feminine energy within yourself.
Within your relationships, you need to remember that you can only control your actions. You have freewill over your own situations and reality. Your partner has freewill over their own situations and reality. If you are feeling as though your relationships are being illuminated and put to the test right now, I guarantee you it is because the feminine and masculine are in a period of imbalance - and maybe they have been for a little while now.
If you are looking at your relationship and making a conscious choice to work on this relationship, attempting to make it work, wanting to resolve conflicts and bring back a healthier balance - you need to understand that this is as much your partner’s responsibility, as it is yours. Spirit say: “it takes two to tango.” Meaning, your partner needs to get onboard with supporting the relationship to grow and evolve in the way you are desiring it to. If your partner won’t get on board, and put in their side of the work - then your next questions need to be:
“Is this still meant for me?”
“Can I continue to feel this way for 5, 10, 20 years to come?”
“If my partner is not willing to put in the effort, is it worth my effort?”
Going back to looking at the feminine and masculine energy within ourselves. If you are tired, sick, unwell, this is the physical body showing you that you have an imbalance in the energetic. Right now, with the focus being on our masculine and feminine energy; if you have found yourself continuously thriving as of late, it’s time to take your foot of the throttle.
You don’t need to be continuously striving and hustling. You need to find time for quiet, stillness and rest. So, Spirit is calling you to bring back the balance. Take two or three days to rest. No work, just time for you to be gentle with yourself and to bring some calmness back into your world. Stay home, rather than go out. Indulge in a relaxation massage. Book a hair appointment. Plan to go on a meditation retreat. It’s time to take conscious actions in balancing these energies. You may find that you are reminded again and again by your physical body if you do not listen to the call to rest right now.
This work may stir up some feelings with the full moon in play and a cycle of purging underway. Stay grounded and remind yourself that you deserve a life that is balanced and fulfilling. Don’t think about how your need for rest, may be an inconvenience for others. Your rest is needed for your own health, and you are the only one in control of that. Don’t allow yourself to be at the expense of the demands of others. Put yourself first & when the dust has settled and you’ve had time for some reflection, prepare to have a productive conversation with your partner about how you are feeling within your relationship.
Love & light,
🌻Marni
Message for the Week Ahead
Giraffe Spirit
“See the big picture.”
Channelled Message:
You have a dream. You have your heart set on your life looking a certain way. It’s time to really look into that big picture and decide what you want. The month of June & July is about manifestation. Therefore, right now you need to focus on this big picture and clearly say your prays to ask the Universe for what you want. Don’t focus on the smaller steps. Don’t tune in closely to try and work out how you’re going to get there. There is no need for this because Spirit will be your guide. How you’re going to get there is probably going to look quite different to what your logical mind believes in the best pathway there.
Focus on what you want - the bigger picture. Spirit will get you there when the time is right and in the best way possible. Get ready for change.